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‘Please speak out’ says heartbroken boyfriend after mum, 30, took her own life

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Original article from Kent Live

A Snodland man has shared a heartfelt tribute following the tragic passing of his girlfriend.

Libbie Hamilton was just 30-years-old when she died by suicide on June 14, following what her boyfriend Joshua Johnson, 31, described as a "troubled life".

The couple shared a baby boy, Elijah, together, who born in the early hours of August 21 and is now ten months old.

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Following what Josh described as a tough upbringing, losing her mum at the age of just 13, Libbie bought herself a one-way ticket to Spain to start a new adventure.

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The talented singer signed a record contract with Erik Nova while in Spain, and her beautiful voice led her to perform her track 'Cry With Me' at Benidorm Palace.

"The way I look at it is it's the only way I am ever going to hear her voice again," he told KentLive.

"I listen to her music very often, and I play them to our son before he goes to sleep.

"When she used to work in bars in Spain they always used to get her to do the karaoke, she just had such an amazing voice.

"She could light up any room with her bubbly character, she was just the life and soul of any party."

Troubled life

While in Spain Libbie was diagnosed with Stevens-Johnson Syndrome, which is a rare and serious skin disorder.

Because of this condition she had to be flown to a Valencian hospital for life saving treatment.

Libbie would go on to spend the next nine months of her life in that hospital.

Shortly after this she also suffered the heartbreak of her then-fiancé Craig passing away.

Libbie Hamilton could light up any room with her character, said boyfriend Joshua

After the nine months in hospital had passed, Libbie's sister, Natalie Ludford, flew over to bring her back home to the UK.

It was at this point that Joshua decided to reach out to Libbie on Facebook.

The pair were classmates at Meopham School, near Gravesend, when they were younger, and later arranged to meet in The Monks Head pub for a drink.

"She always said that she had a thing for me in school," he joked.

"She used to class herself as a 'not so cool kid' and I was part of the 'cool gang', so we didn't have much interaction during our school days.

"But I since told her, she was much more of a personality than me."

Traumatic birth

After eventually moving in together at Josh's home in Snodland, near Maidstone, Libbie fell pregnant with the couple's son.

"It was such a special moment, overwhelmed was an understatement," he said.

"She had always wanted children but we thought due to her condition that it wasn't a possibility.

"We of course got very excited and started shopping early, it's by far my favourite memory with her."

With her waters breaking at 22 weeks, Libbie was rushed to the Royal Sussex County Hospital in Brighton, the only one nearby that could facilitate her needs.

The medics managed to stabilise her and keep the baby inside until the crucial 23-week mark.

Baby Elijah was born on August 21, 2020, weighing just 1lb 1oz.

The couple's son, named Elijah

Josh said: "She was in the process of drawing our son some pictures to go on his wall at home.

"She drew cartoon characters like Dumbo, and was actually quite a big kid herself really."

After 165 days the family could finally return home as one, and Josh said it was everything they had ever wanted.

'Mental health is real'

He and Natalie both tried to help Libbie with her personal demons, but on June 14 she attempted to take her own life.

Paramedics were able to resuscitate her 20 minutes after finding her and she was then rushed to Pembury Hospital in Tunbridge Wells.

Here she was put into an induced coma for 72 hours to allow her body to rest.

CT scans revealed that, due to the damage caused to her brain, Libbie would have struggled to remember her family and friends.

On June 18 Josh and Natalie made the heart-wrenching decision together to stop Libbie's life support.

You don't have to suffer in silence if you're struggling with your mental health. Here are some groups you can contact when you need help:

Samaritans: Phone 116 123, 24 hours a day, or email jo@samaritans.org, in confidence

Childline: Phone 0800 1111. Calls are free and won't show up on your bill

PAPYRUS: A voluntary organisation supporting suicidal teens and young adults. Phone 0800 068 4141

Depression Alliance: A charity for people with depression. No helpline but offers useful resources and links to other information on its website

Students Against Depression: A website for students who are depressed, have low mood, or are suicidal. Click here to visit

Bullying UK: A website for both children and adults affected by bullying. Click here

Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM): For young men who are feeling unhappy. Has a website here and a helpline: 0800 58 58 58

That day was significant. It was the 16th anniversary of her mum's passing and Josh believes she held on until then so she could be reunited with her.

"We want to raise awareness of mental health," he added.

"There are a lot of people out there who don't really speak to anyone, and this is one of those cases that slipped the net and ended in the worst possible way.

"Mental health is real. Depression, anxiety and paranoia are just a couple examples of mental health problems.

"Problems that thousands of people are suffering from in silence everyday so please if you feel that way speak to someone, just pick up the phone and make a call.

"We don’t want your families going through the pain that we are feeling right now."

The family have set up a Gofundme page for people to contribute towards the Libbie's final send-off.

You can view the page by pressing this link.

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